Wanting something has got to be one of the most taxing feelings that a person can have. Even if that desire is fun, exciting, beneficial, etc...The desire to want is extremely draining because in order for you to pursue the "it" or achieve the "it" you have to be sold on it all the way through. By "all the way through" I mean there are three things that have to be in alignment. And those are the heart, mind and soul. If one of those isn't on the same page, then what you go for, or try to do will be a failure. It just won't work.
Often times we say that we want something, and decide to go forward with the challenge of moving forward to having it. As people, we have a tendency to believe that everything will work itself out if we just pursue something. We sometimes think that the want is good enough, and the rest will sort itself out. The problem then becomes one of dynamics, because there may be more to pursuit than originally thought. Objects on the other side of the glass are larger, and more complicated than they seem. There are pitfalls, compromises, weighing pros vs. cons, and just plain frustration, but the bottom line is that in order to really turn the want process into the motion of getting process, one has to have all three aspects firing on all cylinders. When one is out of whack, it can turn the simplest aspects into major complicated fiascoes. This applies to everything from trying to achieve dreams, to making relationships work. To "want" means to put these 3 aspects that we all have, into motion to block out everything that can cast fear, doubt, and hesitation. It is those feelings that prevent us as people from transferring the desire and want stage to the actual getting and achieving stage.
The main problem for all of us as people is that we sometimes don't realize that one of these things isn't sold on the idea. We often wonder why something isn't working, or why things are not running as smooth as they should. We feel that we have the desire, we feel that our mind is focused, but we often forget that the heart and soul often rule the subconscious, and if the heart and soul are not buying it, they will often play tricks with the mind, and sabotage the whole thing. Tricky? yes, but it really is how things work, and no matter what you do to combat it, you will never achieve what you want until you can win over those aspects of yourself. All of us have been guilty of some form of subconscious sabotage at some point, and it really does considerable damage to what your conscious tries to do. The simplest things become complex agendas, if there is conflict within yourself and what your conscious wants, and what your subconscious refuses to buy into. I label the mind as the conscious part because our minds really are the things that talk to us and say "You want this". But the subconscious in my opinion is really the joint effort of the heart and soul because those are really the things that govern your actions..Your mind can tell you to do something all day long, but if your heart and soul aren't willing, then you will be disappointed...And the key word after that sentence is "always".
What is the answer? Well there is not necessarily an answer as there is an important question. The question usually is "Why?" Why are those aspects of self not buying into the "want" column? It's hard enough to read what your mind is telling you. Reading what your subconscious heart and soul is trying to reveal can be like solving a Rubik's Cube. There is a solution, but you will have to go through all sorts of turns and twists to figure it out...Or you may be able to figure it out very easily. But that doesn't mean that it will change. It just means that you have clarity on why, and this knowledge will help you to make decisions, and no matter what, the decisions help with the big picture of what you do or don't want. Whatever your roadblocks are to getting what you want, or believe you want, you will have to know what they are to either clear them, or accept them, but the road must be clear in order to drive to the "it" that you have in your sights. or you will dodge, make excuses, sabotage, whatever phrase you can think of that describes systematic avoidance. Everyone, including yours truly have engaged in systematic avoidance. It is part of the complex nature of human beings in their quest for a balance between thinking and feeling.
The initial "How does it feel to want" feeling is a great feeling. It's the other things that come into play that often times ruin it. Whether they be historical things associated with fear, anger, past disappointments, whatever, humans build subconscious walls of protection to insulate themselves from exposure. It's breaking that wall down that is the hardest thing that anyone can do to achieve their wants, erode fears, allow people in their lives. But the Heart, Mind and Soul must be in tune with one another to make these things happen. If any one of those is out of sync, and not on board, you will not only never get what you want, you will screw up what you have.
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