There is an old saying that suggests that you shouldn't be worried about your enemies that attack from the back, but you should be more worried about your friends who attack from the front. This is absolutely true, as most people never suspect that people they trust would ever be the ones that somehow be the ones to hold them back, try to sabotage them, or even would develop a full blown scheme to ruin them. That is the part that is most bothersome, because no one ever really sees that one coming, because these people were supposed to be helping watch your back against someone else. It usually is a shock to find out that not only were they not watching your back, but they were doing the complete opposite and taking part in a systematic betrayal that causes you and others around you nothing but turmoil and aggravation.
These types of people have different agendas. Sometimes they have a specific goal in mind, where they latch onto certain folks who they believe can obtain those goals, and instead of formulating true friendships, they form "friendships of illusion" where they really only care about the individual or other people if there is a need for them. They see something special about someone, and work their way into the fold, sometimes stepping all over others, and scamming someone in order to get on that individual's side. They will butter that individual up, tell them that the whole world is against them, and that they are on the side of righteousness, and good, and all of a sudden trust is instilled as the manipulation process is now complete. The ultimate coat tail riders, these people find ways of exploiting the people they are using in order to gain entry for themselves into worlds where they would never get into. Now does this sound like networking? Sounds like it, but there is a difference. Networking means that you actually have something to offer once you get to the certain circles that you are getting to, and networking also means that you are not creating casualties along the way...Networking means that people allow you into a world because you have proven that you are worthy to come in, and be a part of it, without destroying part of that world, or anybody in it. Networking is using yourself..What I am talking about is the use and misuse of others. Creating a "false wind" behind the back of someone to make them think that support is there, but it is really a push towards the stairs.
There will always be users in the world. People who just don't want to work hard, and constantly try to find shortcuts that will benefit them, so they don't have to do what needs to be done to be successful. And there lies the crux of the problem with those folks: Instead of doing what they should be doing and performing the little steps that it takes to be a success, they are constantly trying to take leaps and bounds for fast results. The desire for those fast results mean many things: No solid foundation for what is being built, following, instead of leading, in order to catch lightning in a bottle, and the one that is the topic here.. Using people instead of relying upon hard work and ingenuity for ones cause. These people are vultures hovering over others to see what carcass of forward motion they can latch themselves onto. And when they befriend someone they believe can get them something, they A) milk them for all their worth,B) and C) when they get pissed with them, teach them a lesson by sabotage. And when they are done with the individuals or folks they are using, or when those folks figure them out for who they are, they immediately distance themselves and latch onto someone who doesn't yet see them for what they are yet. We all have that moment when sometimes we say to ourselves, "something's not right with this friendship" Well there is usually a reason.
What it boils down to is that given the opportunity to do the wrong thing, some people will do the wrong thing every time, in order to further themselves. And that's what these people do while calling you friend. I know this Blog today is cynical, but it is true, and reflective of things that are real out there. There are users, and they will befriend you, slap you on the back, tell you they love you, all the while ruining, sabotaging you, and using you. And the only word you will hear from them when they are done is.."Next". And you will be left trying to figure out just what happened, and just who that person was that rode your back to where they got to.
No comments:
Post a Comment