Monday, June 6, 2011

As The Crow Used to Fly: The not so straight interactions of today

I am constantly reminded of the interactions that we have with one another. It is sometimes like small battles that we engage in to understand and be understood by others, and occasionally there are disconnects, and words said, and things assumed that don't get straightened out when they could have or should have. That is life between us humans. We sometimes never realize what we say or do, and it sometimes festers and boils over on another end and there is never a productive outcome. Too many times people focus also on the bad aspects of interactions rather than the positive, because the negative aspects produce such visceral feelings, and visceral feelings sometimes govern us more than our reason.
As this world gets smaller and smaller, and people are used to e-mailing, texting, Facebooking, or tweeting, or whatever way there is to communicate, or deal with folks, face time, or dealing with one another "As the crow flies" dwindles. Problems are sometimes created by the off center way that we deal with one another, and the problems get compounded by the lack of person to person problem solving. We have all been guilty of saying or doing something unaware that offends someone, or makes someone question our actions. The truth is that none of us read minds, and when that happens someone needs to say something to make someone who's unaware now hip to the problem. We as human beings love to hold on to pride, and certain self righteous leanings where even the most honorable person may choose to maintain  a grudge. Friendships are easily put to the test when this occurs, but part of the problem lies within the fast paced world we're in where it's easy to distance ones self and create a major time disconnect, so now what could have been solved by a simple meet now is under the rug growing larger.
The fine line between friends and enemies is already a delicate frayed one, and with the road blocks of technology abound people can fall onto the negative side of that very easy, taking with them communication, desire to air out grievances, and resentments that grow to be unwieldy and hard to melt. Years ago people would call one another, or meet somewhere where a particular situation could be hashed out. There may even be yelling, or some other high energy exchange, but it got purged. Now, even as the world gets closer, it is easier to make someone disappear, and ignore them, or keep them at bay without really talking to them. So in a world where communication is enhanced technologically, it gets lost personally.We seem destined to be folks who deal with one another on a daily basis of sideways interaction, always trying to correct what we have texted or written, and not understanding what each other are feeling. Through the glass we will be to one another, and strangers who don't know how to hold meaningful conversations face to face. It is not all the way there yet, but it is slowly getting there. The children of today will be the communicators of tomorrow. And the only things that they will have to say to one another is "OMG" and "LOL". Human interaction has been and is still the most frail barrier to be broken by us. Do we really need any more help to misunderstand one another?

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