There are quite a few things in life that are pretty straightforward, and if you look at those situations closely you could honestly say that certain things are pretty easy. It's people that make things complicated, and difficult. Example that we all can relate to:
On the highway there was some mowing going on and the sign explained that the left lane was going to be closed however far ahead. Now if everyone was smart they would begin to merge with the idea that one car would be let in a lane at a time. I would let someone in, and then the car behind me would let someone in, and so on and so on, and it would be a pretty simple transition. Slow yes, but simple, and consistently moving if everyone followed the pattern. There would be very little problems, and bottle neck would be a smooth transition, that would allow traffic to at least flow at a 5 mph crawl, but flow nonetheless. Now of course here are jackasses who see the sign, speed up, and change lanes not once or twice, but 3 times in order to get ahead of everyone else only to be stopped dead in their tracks by the cone, and now they have to edge their way into a lane that they could have already been in. But now they have caused back up, near collisions, and more angst that there should have been if they had just taken the time to be a part of the simplicity. Of course they are now bitching and moaning about a situation that they themselves were a big part in creating.
That's the hard part that quite a few people never get. Situations that have simplicity built into them and could be quite easy often times than not, take work on the part of individuals to make them easy. Ease doesn't just float down from the sky, and part things for people like the Red Sea. There is usually something that we must do to make potentially easy situations work. And the big problem is that most folks want things to be easy, yet they don't want to take part in the give and take that prompts the simplicity. Usually there really isn't a great deal of effort required to make something easy, but folks don't want to do that either. To be in a position to receive an easy situation, you pretty much have to be willing to be a part of the situation by contributing something to it. Whether it be work, cooperation with others, sacrificing ego for the greater picture, or just plain going with the flow of something. A great many people do not understand, and often you will hear, "Well that's not my responsibility" or "Why should that be my problem?", or the dreaded, "What's in it for me?"
So with those attitudes, many people take simple situations that require a minimal amount of effort to make successful , and make it the most complicated, problem ridden, tension filled moments that some will never forget. All because they believe that an easy situation should require them to do nothing but accept the situation that of course should be in their minds, benefiting no one but them. It's not rocket science nor magic. it is truth, and the truth is that 9 times out of 10 if you want a situation to work for you, there must be some effort on your part to work for it. To be selfish, such as some of those drivers were, creates nothing but harder work for the whole situation, and the illusion is that you are helping yourself, when in fact you are hurting yourself, and creating more problems for you, while you may tend to think everyone else is making it harder for you. The act of projection where your problems are actually being blamed on someone else.
Of course try to point this out to some folks and you will promptly get the finger, or some degree of the statements that I presented earlier. Easy is actually that..Easy. But it takes a complicated understanding of how things work that makes it easy. The more you accept responsibility for your part in a situation the easier it will be, and when everyone accepts that role, then everything is gravy, and unbelievably harmonious. Like a nice new car engine. If you want to make things complicated alone by yourself, then by all means do so. But when you really take a good look at quite a few situations, easiness is built in. It's the human intangibles that usually take it out. Just do your part in the scheme. So follow the directions, cooperate with folks, and ask questions to see how you can make some situation better. It's all there...No easy button needed.
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